You seem "happy" on the outside. But are you really?
Self-help “gurus” have ruined the word “happiness.”
So much so that today people naturally associate “happiness” with photos of hikers on mountaintops with “happiness quotes” scribbled in calligraphy underneath.
But have you ever wondered why you never see a “happiness quote” underneath a picture of a parent consoling a screaming toddler, or a retiree struggling to pay the bills, or someone sitting down to their fourth round of chemo?
The answer is obvious: the shallow kind of “happiness” peddled by motivational speakers doesn’t work in real life.
Where is genuine happiness found?
Ancient spiritual writers taught that genuine happiness is not found on mountaintops, but is the by-product of believing and doing hard things. To them, genuine happiness is always found on the other side of pain.
When we force ourselves to believe hard things about ourselves (that we’d rather ignore or deny) and do hard things (that we’d rather avoid or delay), our lives dramatically improve and genuine happiness follows. You don't need to go a mountaintop to find happiness. You can be genuinely happy whenever, wherever, regardless.
The coolest part about of all this is when our hearts overflow with gratitude for the happiness we’ve discovered, they also begin to break for those around us who are still in pain. When this happens, we become instigators of change, and that's when the real fun starts.
For years I struggled with appearing "happy" too
My name is Brian Jones, and for years I struggled with genuine unhappiness until I realized that just like with you, the problem wasn’t with me, it was the faulty approach I was using. Since then, I've helped thousands of people live the best version of their lives possible by embracing timeless principles rooted in ancient spiritual wisdom, science, and common sense. Together, with hearts filled with gratitude, this growing band of happiness insurgents has, in turn, helped thousands of hurting children and adults around the world.
You can find genuine happiness. Here's how...
I want you to know that no matter where you've been, no matter what you've done, and no matter what you're facing, you can experience genuine happiness too if you’re willing to believe and do hard things.
Here are four ways to get started...
1. Sign up for my newsletter and get better, faster.
Every Tuesday and Thursday I’ll send you a funny and provocative article designed to help you rethink a specific area of your life based on timeless principles. Each week you'll get better, faster, and it will only take 2 minutes of your time. As a way of saying "thank you" for signing up, I'll give you a free copy of my eBook The #1 Secret of Genuinely Happy People. You can get it HERE.
2. Read my books and find your real purpose in life.
If you're going through a really tough time right now, you'll find strength and courage from my book Second Guessing God. If someone has hurt you and you can't find a way to move on, you'll find immense encouragement and a practical path forward in my book Forgiveness. And if you want life’s best, but are trying to figure out why your life has taken so many unexpected twists and turns, you'll really enjoy my new book Finding Favor (to be released April 17, 2018).
3. If you're local, visit my church and find authentic community.
I started Christ’s Church of the Valley (CCV) in the suburbs of Philadelphia to be a supportive community for those wanting to incorporate timeless spiritual principles into their daily lives. You'll love the kind and extraordinary people at CCV. Though distinctively Christian in orientation, we welcome anyone regardless of beliefs or background. We'd love to have you join us. For those interested, I post my talks from Sunday’s service the following Monday afternoon.
4. Spread the word on social media and change lives one click at a time.
Can you think of a more important lesson for your kids to learn than how to become a genuinely happy person? Your friends? Your family? Let's change lives together by spreading the word about this ancient pathway to genuine happiness on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.
About Brian Jones
Brian is a graduate of Princeton Theological Seminary (M.Div.) and the author of Second Guessing God, Forgiveness, and Finding Favor. He’s the Senior Pastor of Christ's Church of the Valley, a 2,000+ member church in the suburbs of Philadelphia. Brian has been married to his beautiful wife Lisa for 29 years, and they have three amazing daughters. One of his greatest joys is promoting partnerships in third-world countries that rescue and protect at-risk children. The other is cheering for the single greatest sport’s team in the history of human civilization: THE Ohio State Buckeyes.